uncategorized - June 18, 2024

Embracing the Journey: Lessons on Caring for Someone with Dementia

By Nada Boris

According to the Alzheimer’s Association, 6.9 million Americans age 65 and older currently live with Alzheimer’s disease. As the size of the U.S. population age 65 and older continues to grow, so will the number and proportion of Americans with Alzheimer’s or other dementias. By 2050, the number of people age 65 and older with Alzheimer’s is projected to reach 12.7 million.

Caring for someone with dementia is a reality many of us will face. My journey began in 2017 when I volunteered for Meals on Wheels, delivering meals to older adults. Since recently starting to volunteer with Goodwin Hospice, I have learned that many patients have dementia. I reached out to Jessica Fredericksen, the Director of Brain Health at Goodwin Living, for advice on how to meet older adults with dementia where they are and support them on their journey.

Seeking Advice

Jessica Fredericksen joined Goodwin Living in 2021. She leads brain training and programmatic efforts within the organization including the StrongerMemory brain health program, an effort that now reaches nearly 200 organizational partners and impacts more than 25,000 people across the United States. Jessica holds a Master of Social Work with a Gerontology concentration from Washington University in St. Louis and is a Certified Dementia Practitioner and Trainer.

When I reached out to Jessica, she immediately recommended two books: Dementia Caregiver Guide by Teepa Snow and Creative Engagement: A Handbook of Activities for People with Dementia by Rachael Wonderlin with Geri M. Lotze, Ph.D.

States of Dementia: Characteristics and Helpful Engagement Tips

I benefitted from reading the Dementia Caregiver Guide, which assigns various states of dementia to different “gems” and explains how they manifest. I found it fascinating to learn that with these states (not stages) of dementia, someone can experience multiple states, even when their dementia has progressed to another stage.

It’s important to note that there is very little that can be done to alter the course of dementia once it sets in. We must learn to meet the person where they are as their dementia changes over time.

Sapphire

Characteristics: True Blue. People in this gem state experience normal brain function that offers organized thought, flexibility and low stress.

Helpful Tips:

• • Even healthy brains can experience stress and fall out of this gem state. Remember that finding calm can help when this happens, so breathe deeply and find your way back to this state if you can.

Diamond

Characteristics: Clear, faceted, sharp and cutting. People in this state still shine and remain capable of being independent, though they might show more rigidity. Perhaps they seem more stubborn or set in their ways. They may resist change.

Helpful Tips:

• • When faced with someone who is being stubborn, be willing to say, “I am sorry, I was trying to help,” and maintain a calm and friendly tone.
  • When a person struggles with tasks, help and support without taking over the task.
  • Listen to stories and make the person feel special, valued and accepted.

Emerald

Characteristics: Green, on the go. When someone is in this state, they are no longer clear or sharp. When evidence of this state begins to show, it seems clear the person has cognitive changes. They make mistakes and do not notice or get upset when they do notice.

Helpful Tips:

• • If you notice mistakes, go with the flow rather than point them out to the person you’re caring for. Insisting that the person acknowledge the mistakes won’t benefit you or them. It is likely to cause you both more stress.

Amber

Characteristics: Golden yellow mineral. People in this state of dementia are living in a moment in time, one that might not be the present reality. Often, people focus on sensations when in this state, and they might lack safety awareness.

Helpful Tips:

• • • Understand what the person might need to feel good. Create a sensory-rich environment with sights, sounds, textures, temperatures, movements, smells and tastes that appeal to both stimulate or calm depending on what is needed.
  • Be willing to slow down or speed up to match their pace.

Ruby

Characteristics: Red, hidden depths; skills are stopping. People in this gem state might show signs of both body and mind slowing down significantly. They lack fine skills in eyes, mouth, fingers and feet. They might be unable to safely use utensils or even chew food.

Helpful Tips:

• • When engaging with the person in ruby state, use slow, gentle movements as quick movements may startle the individual and cause distress.
  • Use rhythm to soothe them if they get distressed or irritated. You might sing, hum, pray, rock, sway or even dance to calm them.

Pearl

Characteristics: In this state, the person we know is locked away most of the time, a beautiful pearl inside a rough outer oyster shell. While their body and mind are failing, the person will still shine through at moments, offering connection. When someone in the pearl state slips back into their shell, we need to gently let them go.

Helpful Tips:

• • Use the time to be with the person, not just care for them. Talk with the person as though they are fully present.
  • Consider body experiences such as a gentle touch, feeling the sun, stroking a pet and hearing a favorite song. Use smells and model sniffing to help in knowing what to do.

The Gem guide helps recognize the symptoms of dementia in a relatable way, though it’s important to recognize that states are not linear.

Dementia’s progression and journey are as unique as each person’s brain, body and experiences. A person may exhibit symptoms from various levels throughout the journey and even the day. By educating ourselves, practicing patience and compassion, we’re able to meet people where they are and make what remains of their lives well worth living. And when a person loses all memory of names, faces and words, the memory of a gentle touch, tone and smile remains.

About Jessica Fredericksen

Jessica Fredericksen is the Director of Brain Health at Goodwin Living. Since joining Goodwin Living in 2021, in addition to leading brain training and programmatic efforts within the organization, Jessica has led the introduction and integration of the StrongerMemory brain health program with nearly 200 organizational partners, impacting over 25,000 people across the United States. Jessica holds a Master of Social Work with a Gerontology concentration from Washington University in St. Louis. She has also served in management and organizational support roles in the assisted living field. Jessica uses her talents and passion to help educate and innovate in the area of brain health and dementia support. She is a Certified Dementia Practitioner and Trainer.

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Nada Boris, Marketing & Communications Coordinator, joined Goodwin Living in February, 2023.  She enjoys learning about the lives of residents and wishes to be like them when she grows up.